Reader, I married me
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” Oscar Wilde
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In The Media
“Sologamy, as it’s known, is a growing movement for men and women, with consultants and self-wedding planners popping up all over the world.”
“Perhaps sologamy is simply the inevitable next step for millenials… In these very modern marriages – as in so much else – the only constant appears to be themselves.”
Sophie Tanner meets Ruth Langsford and Eamonn Holmes on This Morning.
“When I look back at my wedding photos it brings a tear to my eye and makes me want to relive it all over again. After all, I’ve promised to be my own best friend, and what could be better than that?” Reveal Magazine
“The fact is, I feel better when I am not living in a bubble with someone else, constantly wrestling with expectation. It is lovely to wake up and not deal with someone else’s weather. I feel brighter, more observant, more interesting. One discovery I’ve made is that I never bore myself.” Stylist.co.uk
“Self-marriage isn’t actually a new idea, in Thomas Hardy’s Far From The Madding Crowd the feisty heroine, Bathsheba, actually utters the words: ‘Well, what I mean is that I shouldn’t mind being a bride at a wedding, if I could be one without having a husband. But since a woman can’t show off in that way by herself, I shan’t marry – at least yet.’ Well, maybe it’s time a woman can show off in that way.” Metro
“What puzzles me is when people react in anger; there have been a few critics who seem to be incensed by the idea, calling me a narcissist and attention seeker. In contrast, the whole point of self-marriage is the idea that if you love and care for yourself first, you are in a much better position to be open and sensitive to other people.” Red Orbit
“Self-marriage addresses the notion that being single and thoroughly enjoying it is a viable lifestyle choice, whether this is for a short period of time, during several stages in your life or for most of your adult years.” The Argus
“My wedding was a real celebration; my loved ones watched me commit to myself. I changed the traditional vows to be about one person, but the meaning was still the same. It was empowering.’ Marie Claire
“Sologamy isn’t recognised in the US or Europe but it is part of a growing self-empowerment movement. The benefits are plentiful – no pressure to change your perfectly decent surname, no doing sex with the same body again and again, no resentment over a lopsided cleaning rota. It’s all about real self-love. So you can see why people are into it.” Vice Magazine
“Other cultures have rites of passage which are seen as fundamental to human growth and development and I think self-marriage serves this purpose; it is not yet legally recognised but I hope one day it will be. ” Good Housekeeping
Also featured on Brighton’s Juice FM and BBC Radio Scotland
Self-marriage is the union of one person in heart, body and mind. It is intended for individual joy and for help and comfort in prosperity and adversity. But, more importantly, it is a stable and loving environment.
Through self-marriage, Sophie Tanner makes a commitment to face her disappointments, embrace her dreams, realise her hopes and accept her failures. Sophie will promise to aspire to these ideals throughout her life – through understanding, openness and sensitivity to others.
This is about Sophie’s growth as an individual. With care, respect, responsibility and knowledge comes the affirmation of her own life’s happiness. With respect for individual boundaries comes the freedom to love unconditionally.
By gathering together all the wishes of happiness and our fondest hopes for Sophie from all present here, we assure her that our hearts are in tune with hers. These moments are so meaningful to all of us, for what greater thing is there than one human soul to feel complete? To love thyself, cherish thyself and pleasure thyself?
Self-marriage is an act of faith. Marriage has been described as the best and most important relationship that can exist. It is the combination of love and trust into a single growing energy of spiritual life. It is a moral commitment that requires and deserves daily attention. Marriage should be a lifelong act of loving kindness – backed with the will to make it last.
Now, do you Sophie Tanner take Sophie Tanner to be your wife? Do you promise to love her, comfort her, honour and keep her, in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in joy, to cherish and continually bestow upon her your heart’s deepest devotion, as long as you shall live?
Sophie: “I do.”
May you always have the gift of love, be one in heart and in mind, and always create a home that puts in your heart generosity and kindness.
Sophie has consented in marriage before this company of friends and family and has pledged her faith in herself by giving and receiving a ring – she is now united.
Sophie, you have pronounced yourself ‘wife’ but remember to always be your own best friend.
And so, by the power vested in me, I now pronounce you wife – may your days be good and long upon the earth.